Episode 174

Published on:

16th Jan 2024

The Real Cost Of Your Future Self With Matthew Todhunter

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In this episode, Mark introduces Matthew, a regular guy who turned his life around by investing in himself through the Empowered Man program. Matthew shares his journey from a challenging divorce to financial struggles and how he chose to make an investment in personal growth. The episode emphasizes the difference between a cost and an investment, highlighting the profound impact it had on Matthew's life, leading to a new relationship and a sense of purpose. They also challenge you to see yourself as a worthy investment and to take control of your destiny.

Episode Summary:

  • Empowerment and personal growth for men. 0:03
  • Mark Santiago introduces Matthew, a client who went through a transformation with Empowered Man.
  • Matthew shares his personal journey and reasons for joining Empowered Man, highlighting the impact the program had on his life.
  • Taking responsibility for personal growth after infidelity. 2:05
  • Matthew's personal journey of self-discovery through Empowered Man coaching.
  • Matthew reflects on his past mistakes and struggles with boundaries, financial control, and vision, and how writing down his goals and vision has given him power and direction.
  • Matthew credits the pain of past failed relationships as a motivator for taking his personal growth more seriously and writing down his goals.
  • Matthew acknowledges his role in the failed marriage, taking responsibility for his emotional unavailability and lack of emotional growth.
  • Matthew emphasizes the importance of doing "deep shadow work" on one's inner child self to heal emotional wounds and become a better, more emotionally available man.
  • Personal growth and investment. 9:37
  • Matthew shares his experience of feeling unfulfilled and lost before discovering the Empowered Man podcast, which inspired him to tap into his internal producer and provide more than just financial support.
  • Matthew describes how they were inspired by the podcast to recognize his potential as more than just a provider, and to prioritize his own growth and well-being.
  • Matthew describes how they saw the loan as an investment, not a cost, despite having been bankrupt in the past.
  • Mark highlights the difference between a cost and an investment, and how Matthew's mindset demonstrates his willingness to transform and change.
  • Self-worth and investment in personal growth. 14:11
  • Matthew believes they have purpose and meaning in life, and are willing to invest in themselves to achieve their goals.
  • Mark questions whether other men see themselves as worthy investments, and notes the impact of low self-esteem on a person's ability to provide for their children.
  • Mark expresses fear of investing in oneself due to potential divorce, highlighting the need to overcome this fear for personal growth.
  • Matthew shares their personal experience of investing in themselves and finding a partner who values his growth, emphasizing the importance of prioritizing internal development.
  • Personal growth and investment in a man's life. 19:31
  • Matthew emphasizes the importance of taking action and investing in oneself, even when faced with challenges and limited resources.
  • Mark and Matthew both highlight the need to overcome excuse-making and take control of your life, rather than waiting for external circumstances to change.
  • Mark discusses working on yourself and seeing yourself as an investment.
  • Personal growth and self-improvement. 24:45
  • Investing in personal growth and relationships leads to attracting successful people and experiences.
  • Matthew reflects on past mistakes and recognizes the importance of investing in oneself for personal growth and self-awareness.
  • Mark highlights the idea that no one else can save us but ourselves, and the decision to work on ourselves is worth any cost.
  • Investing in personal growth and transformation. 29:50
  • Mark emphasizes the importance of investing in oneself, not just financially but also emotionally and spiritually, to achieve transformation.
  • Matthew agrees, noting that if one doesn't put in the work, they'll regret spending money on Thrive, but if they do, they'll look back and say it was worth it.
  • Mark emphasizes the importance of healing, communication, and leadership for men, encouraging viewers to apply for advisor consultations to learn more.
  • Mark thanks listeners for joining the podcast and invites them to explore earlier episodes and connect with the Empowered Man group for further support.

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Empowered AF
An Empowered man is one who communicates like a leader, sets boundaries that gets respect, knows who he is and what he wants...and owns his own sh*t. The Empowered AF podcast is designed to help men do just that in their marriage and life. Join...
An Empowered man is one who communicates like a leader, sets boundaries that gets respect, knows who he is and what he wants...and owns his own sh*t.

The Empowered AF podcast is designed to help men do just that in their marriage and life. Join entrepreneur, coach, and father Mark Santiago every week as he shares the secrets to stepping into your own empowerment as a man.

Each week you’ll hear about taboo issues that hold back the modern-day man from knowing who he is, what he wants, and how to become the man he wants to be as a father, husband, and leader.

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