Episode 154

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29th Aug 2023

From Reaction To Resilience: Tools For Facing Life's Pains Head-On

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In this episode, Mark and Joey discuss transitioning from reacting to building resilience, tackling internal pain, and confronting emotional challenges. Live listeners share their struggles with pain, uncertainty, and limbo. They delve into distinguishing between situational and internal pain, emphasizing personal growth. They explore coping mechanisms, avoidance, manipulation, and the impact of a lack of emotional nurturing. They also urge setting goals, envisioning a better future, and embodying both the warrior and poet within, encouraging men to reclaim leadership and authentic masculinity.

Episode Summary:

  • Intro to the episode. 0:03
  • Welcome to the next level of empowered AF 2.0 and what it means to be an empowered man in his most advanced form.
  • Internal pain vs external pain, internal pain.
  • Situational pain. 2:14
  • Situational pain is the situation that is causing you pain, not the situation. It's the underlying pain, the pain that is what's happening to you.
  • Separation of a wife and divorce is a situation where you're hoping to get the reps over with, but not the growth.
  • The three main ways that men deal with internal pain, and how they deal with the external pain.
  • The three ways that guys deal with external pain, avoid, manipulate and complain.
  • How do we deal with rejection? 7:31
  • The importance of having a healthy grid for dealing with rejection and how to deal with it, and how it can make us feel like a little boy.
  • How a reframe perspective can help us see the situation a little differently and more clearly.
  • A lot of guys here don't have approach goals. They have avoiding goals, which is why they stay stuck in their shame cycle.
  • Some of you have found yourself dating the same woman in a different body over the years, and it's costing you your marriage and relationship.
  • Takeaways from the training. 12:44
  • Ben shares his takeaways from today's training, including past relationships and dealing with the pain of losing his father at a young age.
  • The legacy he wants to leave for his kids.
  • The first thing is not to waste time. The second thing is to go deeper with what happy means and what it looks like for them.
  • 80% of Americans don't even set goals for themselves.
  • How to get past the pain. 17:17
  • Every good season will pass, and every bad season will come. The difference is how you show up each day and how you receive what's possible.
  • Connecting with your own future.
  • The more emotionally connected a man is to his future self, the more of a reality it becomes.
  • The cycle of crisis all of us are living in.
  • Crisis Crisis Crisis. 20:12
  • A lot of guys grew up in a childhood home that wasn't safe and secure, where they couldn't share emotions, where their father looked at them and said, you better buck up and cut up a butter cup, but I'll whip your ass.
  • Real men don't cry. Real men provide real men with real emotions.
  • When a wife becomes the homemaker, the testosterone goes way down and the man becomes emasculated.
  • All of us have an opportunity to be initiated into manhood, but most of us never took the opportunity. Most of us are fatherless, even if you had a good dad.
  • Lack of leadership, lack of real men standing there and being a real man who stands in the face of fear.
  • Setting goals for yourself. 25:12
  • Men do weird things, especially when they are in pain, and it comes out in so many forms, especially as they start to get older.
  • Baldo is here to say.
  • Keep working at it and keep pushing yourself, because it is greener on the other side. The more they get better, the more they feel self-confident and everything works out for the best.
  • Ball Dell is a man of his word. He made sacrifices and became a man.
  • How to get out of your own way. 30:00
  • If where you are right now is not where you want to be, that is an indicator that it is time to try something different.
  • If you haven't gotten a chance yet, hop on with one of our concierge to hear a little bit about what's happening and get a game plan.
  • We want guys that are ready and committed to the work and in the process of becoming the empowered man and becoming that kind of man.
  • The first episodes in this podcast have over 50 episodes on the foundations of how to be an empowered man.

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An Empowered man is one who communicates like a leader, sets boundaries that gets respect, knows who he is and what he wants...and owns his own sh*t. The Empowered AF podcast is designed to help men do just that in their marriage and life. Join...
An Empowered man is one who communicates like a leader, sets boundaries that gets respect, knows who he is and what he wants...and owns his own sh*t.

The Empowered AF podcast is designed to help men do just that in their marriage and life. Join entrepreneur, coach, and father Mark Santiago every week as he shares the secrets to stepping into your own empowerment as a man.

Each week you’ll hear about taboo issues that hold back the modern-day man from knowing who he is, what he wants, and how to become the man he wants to be as a father, husband, and leader.

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