Episode 150

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1st Aug 2023

Strategic Action Vs. Tactical Action, Part 1

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In this episode, Mark and Joey address the pain, uncertainty, and frustration experienced by many of their listeners. They explore the options of saving an old marriage, creating a new one, or considering divorce. They also talk about the importance of clarity, empowerment, personal sacrifice and prioritizing one's own happiness.

Episode Summary:

  • Intro to this episode. 0:03
  • Welcome to the next level of empowered AF 2.0 and what it means to be an empowered man in his most advanced form.
  • The three things you need to have clarity on. 1:50
  • The three things that are on the table, new marriage, divorce or old marriage.
  • If a guy wants a new marriage ask himself why he wants to be married to this person.
  • Why do you want to be married to this person? 3:50
  • The first question to ask is, why do you want to be married to this person?
  • The goal of reconciliation is to become the most empowered version of yourself.
  • What has to matter to you? 5:41
  • The desire for healthiness has to supersede anything else. The lack of health is what is dictating your life right now, and you have today what you deserve because of what you believe in.
  • The truth serum exercise, seven days of truth to understand what is really happening in your marriage.
  • What we've done for 21 plus years. 8:23
  • The future holds unknown avenues, and the future has unknown avenues. They have always kept their morals up, no cheating, etc.
  • What they have done for 21 plus years has not worked.
  • How do you choose to move forward? 10:07
  • The question is in Tony's court. He gets to choose how they move forward.
  • The children have come to you also and said dad, we're not happy here. We want to go back to Canada.
  • Why would you give up children? 12:48
  • Thomas is not giving up his children. He is giving them 48 members of her family that no other family members are around.
  • The other option is to not allow them to go there.
  • Choosing the path of least resistance. 15:12
  • The atomic reaction of choosing the path of least resistance, the one that will produce more happiness.
  • The calculation is how to get the collective to be more happier.
  • You can always come up with an optimal solution. 17:26
  • Mark challenges listeners to look into their own internal wants, needs and desires, because they are no good to those kids if they are not happy.
  • There are over 50 episodes on the foundations of how to be an empowered man. Check out the empowered man group on

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Empowered AF
An Empowered man is one who communicates like a leader, sets boundaries that gets respect, knows who he is and what he wants...and owns his own sh*t. The Empowered AF podcast is designed to help men do just that in their marriage and life. Join...
An Empowered man is one who communicates like a leader, sets boundaries that gets respect, knows who he is and what he wants...and owns his own sh*t.

The Empowered AF podcast is designed to help men do just that in their marriage and life. Join entrepreneur, coach, and father Mark Santiago every week as he shares the secrets to stepping into your own empowerment as a man.

Each week you’ll hear about taboo issues that hold back the modern-day man from knowing who he is, what he wants, and how to become the man he wants to be as a father, husband, and leader.

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