Episode 156

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12th Sep 2023

Navigating The Marriage Maze

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In this episode, Mark and Joey discuss the complexities of navigating marriage issues and Mark's seven laws of problem-solving within a marriage context. The episode emphasizes the importance of identifying the right problems to solve, understanding that not all problems need immediate solutions, and recognizing that problems can be opportunities for growth. They also stress the significance of mindfulness and self-awareness in managing ego and handling relationship challenges.

Episode Summary:

  • Introduction. 0:03
  • Welcome to the next level of Empowered AF 2.0, and what it means to be an empowered man in his most advanced form, healthy communication, healthy lifestyle, physically and emotionally, and evolving into the man you've always wanted to be.
  • The seven laws of problem-solving in marriage.
  • What you think is a problem is actually a symptom. 2:31
  • The first thing is that not all problems need to be solved. Sometimes what you think is a problem is actually not a problem and it's a dichotomy or it's something that is not really the real problem.
  • The more you understand that symptoms are just a symptom of a deeper problem, the better you can get at defining what a real promise for you is.
  • Not all problems need to be solved now. 5:32
  • Not all problems need to be solved now. Not all problems are created equal. The problem is deeper than that. It's important to optimize for the right problem.
  • The third part of that is not all problems have to be created equal, which means that the problem may not be solved today, but it may be solved tomorrow.
  • Not all problems are created equal, and everything is different in terms of how you interpret what a real promise is.
  • Prompts are agnostic, which means they are just what they are.
  • My ex-wife broke up with her boyfriend and moved across town to some guy's house and took my two kids with her to this guy's place.
  • Not all problems need to be solved. Not all problems are created equal. Problems are just agnostic. They are problems.
  • How to turn obstacles into opportunities. 12:02
  • If you start seeing your problems for what they really are, you're going to start turning obstacles into opportunities.
  • Having hopeful faking is going to be a key to release you to the next realm of where you want to go as a man.
  • Every problem that you encounter is an opportunity to encounter who you possibly can be in the future, and your future self is waiting for you to become that man.
  • Solving problems is a game of sequence. 14:52
  • Solving problems is a game of sequence. Stay in sequence and solve the right problem at the right time again.
  • The right thing is starting with you and getting better.
  • How to convince a woman to want to come back to live with you and be with you when you don't have your financial house in order.
  • Stop solving problems that haven't been created. 17:21
  • More often than not, men are not able to let go of their ego and see this as an opportunity for them to become a man.
  • The final piece is to stop solving problems that haven't been created and create more problems that complicate life.
  • The ego can't fathom that someone would want to leave us, and it hurts, and when the honest truth comes out, it's like, this person fell out of love with me because of the way I showed up.
  • One time, before, his wife was nagging him about something.
  • Seven laws of problem-solving. 21:54
  • Recap of the seven laws of problem solving, not all problems need to be solved.
  • How to kill the ego, it's a daily thing, and how to kill it.
  • Being aware of what one is feeling at all times is one of the biggest keys to their life.
  • The body keeps score is all about trauma.
  • How to be a better communicator. 24:52
  • The training breaks down problems in a way that men can move through it and either choose to manage it or navigate it.
  • The first time actually hearing this training, it was something new, and it had a diminishing return, so he liked the context.
  • The 90-day journey of being an empowered man is a 90 day experience, where men are not just getting together to support each other, but to hold each other accountable to who they want to become.
  • The first 50 episodes in this podcast have over 50 episodes on the foundations of being empowered.

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Empowered AF
An Empowered man is one who communicates like a leader, sets boundaries that gets respect, knows who he is and what he wants...and owns his own sh*t. The Empowered AF podcast is designed to help men do just that in their marriage and life. Join...
An Empowered man is one who communicates like a leader, sets boundaries that gets respect, knows who he is and what he wants...and owns his own sh*t.

The Empowered AF podcast is designed to help men do just that in their marriage and life. Join entrepreneur, coach, and father Mark Santiago every week as he shares the secrets to stepping into your own empowerment as a man.

Each week you’ll hear about taboo issues that hold back the modern-day man from knowing who he is, what he wants, and how to become the man he wants to be as a father, husband, and leader.

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